Grief

Grief

Women sitting at side of road with head in hands Have you recently lost a loved one? A partner, a family member, friend or beloved pet?  Are you struggling to move forward with your life after the loss? Do you find it more difficult than usual to get through your day with satisfaction? Or maybe you find yourself thinking that you can’t wait to return bed and just close the curtains. Perhaps you’ve lost a loved one not so recently – but all of a sudden are starting to feel like something is “off,” and you can’t quite get back to your normal self again? Perhaps you’re beginning to realize that you’ve been feeling empty or numb for some time now and are unsure of how to move forward. Often people feel grief over breakups or a loved one making a long-distance move.  If you feel sad and lost about this, you are not alone.  Are these feelings getting in the way of your daily life? Are you worried that they may never go away? If this sounds familiar to you, grief counseling can help.

Grief Can Rob Your Satisfaction in Life

Grief is a natural emotional process that is the result of loss. When you lose someone or something close to you, it’s normal to feel sad. What many people don’t realize is that it’s also common to feel foggy and forgetful when experiencing grief. It can be difficult to find pleasure in the things that you used to enjoy. Or you may feel completely stricken with fear, and unable to move forward with life. When you’re grieving, it’s easy to forget to do normal things like eat healthfully, get exercise, and or pay the bills. This can lead to increased feelings of anxiety or depression, making life even more difficult.

The Five Stages of Grief

Psychologists commonly refer to five stages of grief that many people go through following the loss of a loved one. Those five stages are:

  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Bargaining
  • Depression
  • Acceptance

You may be able to recognize your own feelings in one of those stages, or in some part of that progression. Not everyone goes through all of these stages, however, and not necessarily in that order.

Everyone Experiences Grief

Father hugging daughter and son in a park When you lose someone close to you, it is completely natural to go through a process of adjustment following that loss. For many people, their world is completely changed as a result of the loss. Knowing they cannot be with that person again can be a devastating realization, almost too much to comprehend. It’s natural to try and compartmentalize these big feelings, so that you can go on with your life. At some point, however, these feelings must be acknowledged and felt, so that they don’t wreak havoc on your life down the road. What’s more, when you shut yourself off from the painful feelings, you end up shutting off a vital part of yourself, too.

Even if you had mentally prepared yourself for the loss for a long time, things may feel entirely different now that the person or pet is actually gone. And if that person was not very close to you, or the relationship was complicated, you may be surprised to find yourself so deeply impacted by the loss. But the thing is, grief is not just about sadness. It’s also about coping with change. No matter how we felt about the person that we lost, contending with the fact that they are gone is not an easy process to go through.

Grieving the loss of someone you loved is a personal, but universal, process. Although everyone goes through grief at some point in their lives, it can still be very difficult talk with others about your experience. Sometimes, people just don’t know what to say. It can be hard to pretend things are normal. Especially because life around you may seem to be going on normally, while your own life is so drastically changed. How could things ever be the same again, without that person in your life? The hard but simple answer is that they can’t. Life is different after loss, but it doesn’t have to be terrible. In fact, with the proper support, going through grief – as painful as it is – can be an opportunity to learn more about yourself and grow.

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Grief counseling can help you find hope again. Grief counseling can also help you develop new ways to function following the loss of a loved one.  With the support of a trained therapist, you can begin to rebuild a life that is more joyful and satisfying. It is possible to find yourself again, and live your best life, even after grief. If you are struggling from a painful loss, grief counseling can help you get back on your feet. Schedule an appointment with a grief specialist today.

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